Charting the Roadmap to Change!

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Road Path Photo by Edwin Escolero

Change, why do we do seek it while others try avoid it? What discoveries are made by striving to change our lives?

An unspoken truth is that people tend to dread the unknown. Encountering unfamiliarity’s may make some feel powerless which is especially true for those who’re accustomed to having their way. It is important to understand that not everyone is compatible with the same person and not all will see eye to eye. However, learning to consider new opinions can help one become well-rounded and evolve the mode of thinking.

When driving to a street that one is not familiar with we may be lost in the beginning but once we get through the learning curb we’ll be driving through the road of change. It’s good to be reflective as to avoid bumps, unwanted detours and the same potholes that have been encountered in the past.

Whether it’s about deciding on a new project, a different cooking recipe, taking on a sport, moving on from a relationship or a onetime crush, or deciding to purchase a bike or car it is up to us to decide. We can ask for different opinions to weigh the options available to us. Ultimately, we’re the authors of our own life and we can choose to follow someone else’s script or go forward toward the horizon of change!

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Individuality: The Soaring Soul

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Sunset sky photo by Edwin Escolero

What do we value most in our lives’ is it our sense of individuality or the inclusion within a group? Individuality is the essence of our being, who we are, our soul which is the real self. How real is your soul, are you living according to your code or are you following a group mentality?

 

Maverick thinking can lead to new ideas or innovations that have the potential to do good if it is nurtured in a caring manner that is honest. Take Benjamin Franklin for example, people during his era must have jeered or uttered lunacy when he wanted to harness the power of lightning. Through trial and error ideas can grow and evolve to soar high like a kite in the sky.

When conforming it is assumed that one is part of a group and accepts the ideas of the hierarchy. Whether part of a clique one is expected to follow the motion of the group without questioning anything. Not questioning certain actions can have adverse effects it they’re not done with good intentions. However, there are groups that work to help out others and promote cooperation through a shared sense of responsibility.

Those who follow their own convictions respect the thoughts of others and don’t impose or force their mindset. There’s a desire for open discussion and debate to open new channels of thought and advocate growth. Cliques may wander away from discussion and use pressure if left unquestioned.

Overall, individuality may present isolation or solitude depending on who you are but conformity may lead to a false self that doesn’t bring fulfillment to the soul. Whether you agree or disagree with this blogger’s opinion about individuality and conformity is entirely your right to free will and shall be respected.

Coaching the Challenger Within

Ever dream of reaching a new height in life? This is a dream that some people have achieved through dedication and hard work. Success is not easily attained in life as there are obstacles that are placed to delay your progress. Challenging yourself can be helpful toward bettering yourself.

Giving ourselves self-imposed challenges can help us to improve our skill as well as gain insight about our strengths and weakness.

If you like to write and are not attending school at the moment, why not give yourself a writing assignment to practice structure and spur creativity. If you’re an athlete and the season for your sport is over, you can continue to train to stay competitive for the future.

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Football player sketch by Edwin Escolero

In life is there isn’t always going to be someone to motivate you when you hit a wall, you have to be your own coach. Like coaches in football you have to be tough on yourself and push yourself to exceed your limit. You are the best coach that you will have in life because you want to charge into that field and win in the big game called life.

 

We can reflect on our mistakes, thinking of solutions and different ways to improve ourselves. It is important to give an honest look at oneself analytically but not allow regret or vexation to get in the way of fixing the problem. There is no cheat sheet to life you have work on the game plan as it unfolds.

There will be a couple of fouls and fumbles in life, however, we have to dust ourselves off, make a new game plan, train, and charge ahead. Consistency is important as we train ourselves so we don’t get rusty and feel overwhelmed tackling an art or skill. We should work to improve in what we’re passionate about and ourselves as individuals even after attaining success so we can keep it.

Sowing the Seeds of Trust.

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Tomato plant photo by Edwin Escolero

 

What is trust? Is it a means to gain confidence or approval from someone, or is it just another word that has no context in today’s world. Whether it is given or received trust is a nice feeling to have as you deal with the hurdles of life. According to Oxford trust is defined as “firm belief in the reliability, truth, or strength, etc., of a person or thing.”

There are many components of trust that we should not forgo when seeking it or entrusting upon. Like planting tomatoes which require water, good soil, nutrients, sunlight, and protection, trust requires great care, patience, communication, honesty, being forth coming and tact.

Communication helps one to become familiar with the likes and dislikes of the individual. It also reveals how invested the person is in you through body language and the reciprocation of information. If you’re talking to someone who’s texting on the phone, what does that tell you about how they regard you and vice versa. If you must text at least excuse yourself if its necessary so you don’t make them think that you’re cutting them off.

Honesty is very important if you’re serious about someone placing their trust upon you. Deceit will crumble the foundation of a relationship whether family, work, academic, the dating scene or if you’re part of a team. Deception through purposely misleading or a fake out makes it difficult for one to trust because of past experiences especially if it occurred consecutively.

Straightforwardness and tact is vital to gaining someone’s faith. When attempting to build rapport, using personal information to make someone uncomfortable is asinine. The point of being honest is to foster a healthy relationship; not to be an ass, its about doing it in good spirit.

Trust is hard to build, requiring care and effort to maintain, but is easily broken whether through malevolent actions or through misunderstanding. Ideally, trust should be earned through hard work and character opposed to being brought or handed solely based on looks. There’s simply no magic that makes someone trust you, you have to work hard with sincerity otherwise you’ll just end up with another robot who doesn’t have any opinions or thoughts of their own who’ll follow you around. We have to endeavor to grow the seeds of trust and be patient as it flourishes and lights up through the darkness of doubt.

Calling Heroes, SOS: Start with Optimistic Strive!

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Geese swimming by rocks photo by Edwin Escolero

Need a jumpstart? If you’re not a robot then you must have thought something like this when getting up in the morning. The struggles of life are real and universal but people continue in light of them. Start with optimistic strive!

 

Whether we have to commute to get to school, work, or “jury duty,” we have obstacles either a detour sign or “a wizard” that impedes our quest. We can’t succeed in attaining our goals without motivation when facing a “road block” in life. The drive to reach from point A to point B and the next destination is a key asset.

Effort and desire works in due time so it is important not to allow discouragement stop you from building your dream blocks. There will always be people who will disparage you saying that “you need to be put in your place,” or kick you when you’re down. When someone kicks down a sandcastle that you started to build, what do you do, do you give up building or start over. The grains of sand are your dreams and the castle’s support is your resolve.

Draw on the power of freedom. Oxford defines freedom as “power of self-determination; quality of not being controlled by fate or necessity.” So if your freedom is being restrained just hold on to your resolve and continue on your mission.

To say that life will be all sunshine and people holding hands everyday is a lie, there will be those who take cheap shots and gang up on you, but its essential that you persevere because we never know when we’ll find opportunity or when it will grace us. It’s okay to feel discouragement from time to time as it means that we are human and feel, however, we must not allow it to defeat us.

Starting a project from an interest or from something that gets you passionate is a good starting point and will help keep yourself invested even when the going gets tough. Be it photography, drawing, cooking, writing, sports, or helping people, once you get started you’ll develop a routine that you’ll enjoy and may challenge yourself to see how far you can go.

Overall, motivation and perseverance in the face of adversity is required to succeed and the ability to laugh at yourself with good humor is a plus. So when people slam the door on you just think of it like this, when a door closes a new one will open and opportunity may be closer than you realize.

Spring into Action, The Season for Cleaning

Is it spring already? Whether you’re the outdoors type or indoors, or both we’re a month away from summer. Now its time for some spring cleaning, a task that can be daunting for many of us, myself included. There’s so much to sort through at the home, somebody’s hovering over you criticizing how you’re doing things when you feel like saying, “Hey, buddy why don’t you come here and show me how its properly done.”

The truth is there is no one perfect approach to cleaning as everyone has their own method for doing things which yield results. Speaking from experience the key to cleaning is energy, focus, and time which can influence your motivation of seeing the task through to the end.

For starters, why not put some music to keep your spirits elevated while you do housework. Silence may work for some but music can boost morale and make the time fly as you clean.

Find the optimal time to do chores when the place is empty so you can tackle the tasks without disruptions, and walk backwards as you play the mop like a guitar when no one’s around to see.

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Cleaning Utensils Sketch by Edwin Escolero

 

Prioritizing what chores to do first can save you time and extra work. For example, why not start with the dishes, then move to clearing the counters of lingering crumbs, and handle the floor sweep.

Finally, take out the trash after sweeping grime and collecting clutter. If there’s items that you have difficulty deciding whether to keep or not, just ask yourself when was the last time you used it. If its been gathering dust for years and is unusable, it may be time to throw that stuff out or find the nearest lava pit.

Whatever your fancy, getting started is a challenge, however, once you get into it you’ll be amazed at how much you can accomplish in one afternoon. Remember to give yourself brief breaks to recharge when cleaning so you don’t burnout, but avoid taking too long otherwise you’ll fall into the trap of procrastination. Now spring into cleaning.